There is something magical about powerful women. There is a primal, maternal nature that pushes through the most unfathomable circumstances, and often looking damn good doing it. Our intuition runs purposefully and intentionally like electricity through a power strip. We are antennae. When we tune in, we pick up other channels, the vibrations and energy of others, which puts us in a paradoxical place of being prepared to protect and defend, as well as hyper-vulnerable to danger, burnout and exhaustion.
Some of the best compliments of my life have been people saying that I am one of the strongest and most resilient women they know. Maybe they’ll say that they can’t imagine doing what I need to do or how they would juggle a life like mine. That’s nice, but it’s a way to set me apart. This both prevents them from getting the complicated mess of my life on them, making me an anomaly rather than the norm, which frees them from uncomfortable feelings they don’t want to face (maybe feelings of social responsibility or civic duty), and also keeps someone like me at arm’s length.
Powerful, strong, resilient, fighters don’t need anyone else right? Or any help? Or an opportunity to melt down and have a soft place to fall (as Dr.Phil would say)? Of course not! We aren’t super-human! We aren’t saints! We are just doing our best to get by like everyone else. Our cups get empty now and then. Sometimes we just need some hugs and some ice-cream and a quiet place to cry, and then we can dust off and get back up and take on the evils of the world and slay dragons again.
Being powerful is not the opposite of being vulnerable. Authentic vulnerability is a sign of the ultimate soul power. It’s an ability to connect and tap into the universal, cosmic channel that we are all programmed to find and tune into so we can be an inter-dependent, collective. We are pack animals requiring the relationship and understanding of others. That is a simple truth. Each and every soul is a piece to a greater puzzle, and the more we deny it and fight it, the harder life gets.
Energy changes in groups. We can all feel this when we walk into a room. What do you feel? Is it light or dark? Rejuvenating or depleting? What can you, only you, specifically you, do to make it better? Not later…not someday…but right now. How can you extend your light to ripple out and positively affect others? That’s the trick. That’s the lesson. We all just need to find a way to do what we are uniquely put here to do, but we cannot do it alone. We do not exist in a vacuum and our light is so much brighter as a kick ass super hero team. All of us…not just those we set apart as different…the freaks or the x-men, the avengers or the geek squad, the weirdos or the superstars…all of us have the ability and obligation to shine our light and reach out to those around us. We need everyone so we all don’t go down with this sinking ship.
Just because someone has survived and is strong doesn’t mean they don’t need you. All of us are not only capable of change and reaching the goal of being our highest vibrational selves, but we are required to do it. Once we have awareness, we are contracted to spread the light and goodness, the empathy and positive change around. Sometimes that’s just a smile, buying a stranger a coffee, or pitching in where you see a need. And sometimes the person who may be most impacted by what small gesture you offer is the one you thought was so strong and resilient that they had it all together in the first place.