I have recently come to a startling realization that I have been identified as and have accepted the label and station of someone to be pitied. Upon evaluation of this, I have discovered that I have settled into and been comfortable in being pathetic. It’s been my thing. Subconsciously I have either been viewed as such, or as a super woman who can handle anything, and in the depths of myself, I have learned to be okay with…maybe even proud of both.
This has been lonely. And, as I become more centered and aware, and as I strive for a better life, for peace, and for joy, I have awakened to wanting neither title.
I cannot, nor do I want to do everything alone, neither do I want people to feel sorry for me….I just want good, honest people to share my life with. I want people who consider me an equal. I want to have fun. I want to breathe. I want to enjoy whatever life I have left.
My kids know hardship. My kids know struggle. I want them to know that they are not defined by that, nor does that fact hold them hostage. We are entitled to opportunity and happiness the same as everyone else. We are not less. We are not pitiful. We just are. We are whole and complete and lovable. We deserve good things and can welcome them. We can spread love and joy. We can make a positive impact….regardless of diagnoses, pain or issues.
We all have greatness within us. Our souls know truth when we hear it. If we are still and listen, we can often find the most complex answers to the questions in our hearts.
If I can master letting go of these things that have been my identity for so long, I may just bloom into what I am meant to be. That is my new dream for me and the kids…and for you as well.