I’ve been having a lot of stress dreams lately. It’s obvious my mind, body and soul are trying to work stuff out. There have been tornadoes, hurricanes, floods, lava, car accidents, missing friends, catastrophic weddings, dresses that don’t fit, tumors, missing teeth, malls collapsing, break ins, lost children, deaths…and its fast paced the whole night. It’s peek Hollywood action film season in my mind. I even owned a broken down abandoned Dairy Queen on a beach somewhere and had to figure out how to make it a business that could allow me to feed my kids.
I wake up exhausted most of the time. Some of this is due to my chronic pain and autoimmune issues, but some of it is all the work my soul is doing while I sleep. I often feel hung over, even when I’ve had nothing to drink. My body is tired, but my heart is a superhero. That part I can be proud of.
One graduate assignment due next week has added to my stress. We are supposed to research how much money we will make, how much we’ll need to retire and when that will be. I joked about it in class, but there is no retirement plan for me. I will likely work harder and harder until I die. I could be many of my classmates’ mom and it shows. Human services isn’t a career to consider even to sustain your family, let alone plan to retire, especially when you are already old enough to be a grandparent. I have never in my life made one decision based on money, I’ve done what I thought I should. But the lack of value society puts on my years of trying to make a positive difference hurts sometimes. And looking ahead causes me extreme anxiety. I look at my schedule one day at a time, because I know I can survive the day, but if I look at all I have to do coming up, it makes me feel panicky.
I’ve known my energy is big. I can call attention, own the room, speak effectively. That doesn’t mean I don’t struggle greatly and want to cry in the corner and hide from the world like everyone.
My faith is strong and I believe that even if I don’t know exactly where I’m headed, I’m moving in the right direction. I like to think of my stress dreams as my body detoxifying itself to bloom into a Rom Com or maybe just a dark comedy. I like to visualize abundance, ease, and effortlessness moving in to replace the stress and headaches. The summer movie season in my mind may get good. I’ll shake off the exhaustion and pain. I don’t know what will come, but I’ll follow where I’m called.