For those that really know me, there have been some pretty powerful changes in my life of late. I’m very close to finishing my masters degree. I’ve taken a step back from some areas where I have felt unwanted, under valued or misunderstood. I have started planning a wedding for the end of this year, something that I never thought I would have any desire to ever do, yet here I am. I am profoundly and irrevocably changed. Miracles overflow and I find myself in tears with honor and humility.
When I look at all of the work I have done on myself in the past ten years or so, primarily as a desperate, potentially final attempt to do anything to improve the lives of my children and myself with so many significant medical, developmental and mental health needs, there is only one primary ingredient that has easily been the miracle key to improved wellness. It’s GRATITUDE.
With my own therapy, my advancing education, my 20 years of work in advocacy, energy work, alternative care, medication when required, and faith, I have made a pivotal shift in my thinking and therefore my wellbeing and what I then give off and spread to others. There are two sides to anything. We can and do naturally focus on the negative side of things, because throughout history and evolution, it was the negative information that kept us alive, like, oh, avoid those bushes, there’s a tiger in there. We did not need to remember or be able to put a lot of energy in focusing on the fact that our mom thought we were lovable.
Yet, as I have now been taught, every negative teaches you a positive. Every time you learn what you don’t want, you very specifically also learn what you do, and you can focus your energy on that. That’s the other side of the coin. If every time you think of the negative, you flip the coin over, you can learn to shift to gratitude, which welcomes an entirely refreshing new energy and vibration. It shifts what we attract and how we feel in our physical experience. I’m certainly not saying our struggles and challenges all disappear, it’s just we can learn to view them from an entirely different perspective.
Some examples might be:
Instead of focusing on lack, flip to anticipation of abundance and what could come.
Instead of fear of pain or loss, focus on growing in experience and welcoming change.
Instead of hating some jerk in the store, ripple out an example of extending grace and kindness. They are telling you they need it and you no longer have to meet their vibration because you know how to raise yours.
It’s quite hard to do, but with gratitude in every moment, it can become second nature…and not only for ourselves but also for the empathy, grace, love and compassion that we offer to others. If we can see both sides of our own coins, we can more comfortably sit with the sides of the coin of those we don’t naturally like or agree with. We can see them as whole humans with purpose and worth and we can take something positive away from what they teach us and we can be grateful for the exchange. Every. Single. Time.
If I could give you all a gift, and a gift that has totally changed the quality of my life, I would offer you gratitude. I can’t make you open the beautiful present, no matter how desperately I want to, and I can’t make you see what I do. I can’t drag anyone along in my enlightenment journey and I can’t wake up anyone else or change your vision like I’ve changed my own. Yet I can plant a seed. I can leave my hand out and extend it to you to join me. I can be grateful for you and our interaction and exchange. I can be grateful you are here on this planet right now, very intentionally, purposefully and necessarily, and know I am graced with what you can teach me too.
I’ll leave this lovely little package with the sparkly silver bow right here. It’s so full I could barely close it. It’s abundantly bursting with all I want to share as long as I am able. Gratitude. It’s the magic ingredient. It’s glowing, and it’s right there for you to take anytime. You are worth it, I promise.