Wow, how my life has changed! It has been such a bizarre year and a half for the world as we make our way to a new normal after this terrible global pandemic. Yet, for me, I have met and married my soulmate, received my masters degree, welcomed my best friend of 26 years moving back to share our lives, had kids leave the nest and enjoyed making our house more and more a reflection of the beauty, joy and love we are experiencing. In a way, this time of isolation gave me time to rest and heal my worn down spirit and also reflect on what changes and what remains.
I have had multiple important people choose to exit my circle recently. This is a natural part of life and we all have different chapters, just a few people stick around to read the end of the book. Sometimes there is grief that accompanies this, sometimes bridges burn, sometimes it’s not the right time to revisit and heal whatever has gone off kilter. And all of that is okay.
I think for a long time I may have been the schadenfreude friend for some. My life was hard and scary and heavy. I was more ‘pathetic’ than most. One might feel sorry for me from afar and thank God they weren’t me, or root for me, hoping that somehow things might get better but knowing my odds weren’t worth betting on.
As I have grown and evolved and I’m healing and manifesting, I no longer fill the ‘pathetic’ void. I have welcomed love and appreciation, joy and fun, gratitude and rest, so my soul could restore and reevaluate. And in this process, some people that I would have thought would be with me cheering, have left. I’m practicing not taking it personally.
Some seem to have made a decision about who I am or what I’ve become and have an issue, but don’t find me worth a tough conversation to discuss whatever it is that is bothering them and move beyond. If I’m not worth the investment for someone, I will no longer settle for scraps of a less-than relationship. I just practice moving on down my path with appreciation for the time we shared and try to not to let it hurt so much. I can always choose to pivot my focus onto the joy I have received, and I’m so humbled by my small miracles.